There’s a reason why some people will tell you they became better people after something like a life-changing incident or surviving a loss.
It’s because they learned to honor that valuable gem of truth that makes you see life in a new way.
I was once stuck in my story. I’d told it so many times it was on autopilot. I attached the same words, the same emotion, and the same meaning every time I’d tell it to a new friend.
There were chapters of my life I had decided to view one way and one way only. My thoughts were set in stone, and those beliefs rumbled around for years as the whole story… the complete accounting of my life.
Until I challenged it.
This quote blew my story wide open:
“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.”
— Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth
What happens, and the meaning we give it, are two separate experiences.
I’ve had a lot of devastating times in my life, and I often thought more than my share. I had unknowingly chosen to hold onto those events, especially the story of losing my son and subsequently my divorce, with numbing pain.
But... I learned the power of reframing my story.
You can’t appreciate where you are without looking back to see where you’ve been.
If you can find even one positive thing about what you learned from it, you’ll have a new story to tell and a wealth of wisdom to gain from it.