It was time to finally fire the imposter and celebrate!
For a long time, I knew there was something negative lurking around me. I started researching that uneasy feeling.
I came upon a 1978 study of high achieving women, clinical psychologists Pauline R. Clance and Suzanne A. Imes concluded that the women in the study believed they were not intelligent and were “over evaluated” by others. They couldn’t appreciate their accomplishments because they felt like frauds.
Although this was a study of women, I think men feel it, too.
Sound familiar? We all feel like imposters at times. Centuries of writers, artists, musicians, and other creatives have dismissed their accomplishments and brilliance by claiming success was “luck,” “timing,” or “deception.”
And it’s not restricted to the arts, think about the number of times someone has complimented you on an achievement, and you’ve brushed it...
I am an Admiral's daughter. When I was young, it was just Dad's job. It wasn't until later in life, I realized the magnitude of my father's accomplishments. He always dreamed big and set his sights on a goal. It never occurred to him that he couldn't accomplish it!
He infused me to believe that we are our thoughts and beliefs. As I was growing up, he made me feel I could become anything I wanted to be!
He was my champion. He held my heart throughout the toughest times of my life. When my son died suddenly at just 16, he would call me every day and sit on the phone with me, even if it was just to cry. He was my biggest cheerleader when I was suddenly a single mom and had to find a new career. If I struggled financially, he would always offer to help, but miraculously his encouragement and business expertise guided me to not need to...
He always believed I was his shining star. Dad died just a few years ago at 90. To this day I can still hear his voice in my head. "Sandy, you got...
There’s a reason I’m telling this silly story… and it's not the outfit I'm wearing. I didn’t know when I got dressed that day, I’d blend in with the desert landscape that surrounds our home in Tucson! I wonder if when I’m at my home in California, I look like my backyard? Why do I have two homes? Because I married a man a few years ago who already had a place of his own on 3 ½ acres and…. his business is located in Tucson. People questioned whether a marriage could work that spanned two states. I’d say it does with the right kind of planning in our personal lives and businesses… plus, a little spontaneity thrown in (like the time I drove 6 ½ hours at night because I couldn’t stand another day apart… didn’t Celine Dion write a song about that?).
The reason I am sharing this story is that people often have preconceived ideas about what love is, and how it works. Well, we just had our 10th...
Sometimes we discover the most beautiful places by taking a wrong turn. This was one of them. A few years ago, my husband and I were touring small coastal towns in the South of France. We were lost!
It was a maze of ancient streets and sidewalks, and suddenly we ended up here….Villefranche-sur-Mer. I’m so glad he captured this moment. I didn’t care if we didn’t know where we were. I stood in awe of the vibrant colors, and I remember the feeling of wanting to soak it all in.
My thought is this... wrong turns, odd choices, unexpected things that happen can give you a new experience and a new perspective on life. That seems to be my life story!
How about yours?