I remember Oprah saying she would never have been able to dream big enough to imagine her life today… that her dreams were based on what she knew at the time. She said she couldn’t have predicted or imagined all that she has become.
And that’s the gift of the Second Act of life. It offers us an opportunity to look back at our lives and assess what we’ve already achieved, in particular, things we thought we could never have accomplished or circumstances we miraculously survived.
Why look back? Because in the second act, hindsight is where wisdom is born.
Like most people, I’ve had a tumultuous life. Here’s a list of things I thought I couldn’t do:
Oprah was right.
The magnitude of your life can’t be predicted. Like Oprah, if I had...
The first time I picked up Brendan Burchard’s, “High-Performance Habits,” I couldn’t finish it. I got one chapter in and bailed.
I wanted to be up for the task, but the truth is, at that point, I was exhausted.
A week ago, I’d run out of creative and emotional fuel. I couldn’t think of a darn thing to write about, let alone work on my website or the next email.
Reading has always been my motivational refuel, but I hadn’t read a book in months. My father died 4 months ago, and grief took away my ability to focus.
Having experienced a lot of loss in my life, I learned long ago the world doesn’t wait for you to finish grieving. In fact, grief has no timetable at all, but your business requires your attention, no matter what.
I stared at the stack of books in my bookcase, and High-Performance Habits was at the bottom of the stack. I felt a nudge to pick it up, but avoided it, even going online to...
“Who are you?” said the Caterpillar… I hardly know, Sir, just at present,” Alice replied shyly, “at least I know who I was when I got up this morning, but I think I must have changed several times since then.”-Lewis Carroll, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland
Do you ever wonder why some people rise up after something goes wrong and others let a similar experience take them down? Maybe you’ve personally experienced heartbreak, disappointments, job loss, financial struggles, or health issues.
It changes you.
You’re not alone; everyone deals with disappointments and setbacks on a daily basis. It changes us, and sometimes it’s hard to remember who we were… before.
But, why do some people sail through the painful and confusing times? Sometimes they even use it to their advantage, but others stumble and fall… hard.
In researching this phenomenon, I...
“Do not judge me by my success, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.”—Nelson Mandela
If there’s one common theme in life, it’s that resilience is the necessary life force that helps us stay flexible, buoyant, and strong.
Wikipedia defines resilience as “the ability to cope with change,” and “being able to withstand or recover quickly from difficulties.”
Resilience rears its head when change happens. One stage of life ends, and another begins. It can happen gently and predictably through natural stage-of-life occurrences, like an empty nest, aging, or retirement. Or, change happens unexpectedly from incidents like a loss, divorce, financial struggle, or health.
Life events, planned or unplanned, drive the cycles of change and contribute to the evolution of you. We can struggle and resist for a while,...
The viral photo… You may have seen it.
Three young men leaning out of the drive-thru of Dutch Bros Coffee, their hands joined with the woman inside the car. It was a candid moment, caught by a random iPhone.
The 37-year-old woman was a frequent customer, and typically very friendly. But on this day, something was different. The barista saw her struggle to repeat the order, choking back tears. She apologized and said she’d lost her husband just a few hours before.
In a spontaneous moment, all three baristas reached out through the window, grabbed her hand, and they began to pray.
The person in the car behind took the picture and shared it with the world.
I saw the photo and started to cry; sort of barking really, because today I have no voice. I’m sitting in bed, struggling with the flu and laryngitis. My throat tightened and I convulsed into sobs with no sound.
It triggered a time years ago when I lost my ability...
Change is the only certain thing in life, and it’s the very thing I fight the most. But, just as sure as I fight it, I start to feel the rumblings of something new about to emerge.
I know it’s happening because it almost hurts to stay the same. Even though I can only see the point of reference I have today, it’s possible that change is the very thing I need to survive.
That must be exactly how the butterfly feels just before she breaks free of her cocoon… or the baby chick, before she cracks the shell to freedom. They have no idea what the new world is like-they just know it’s waiting and they must emerge no matter what.
Every new stage of life begins with ending the “old” and emergence of the “new”
That feeling happens every time I’m about to break out of an old pattern, an old life, and an old way of being. It feels like chaos and I have no control, and once the...
I just got back from Gidget’s ranch with a bounty of fresh cauliflower, lettuce, mustard greens, baby carrots, and sweet tangerines.
Our friendship began decades ago when I had this crazy passion to ride a horse. I had two young boys finally in pre-school and had the mornings free for my heart’s desire. Every day I’d drop the kids off and head to the barn.
Gidget and I would saddle up and ride for hours through the trails of Hidden Hills in Calabasas, and then go for a big breakfast of ranch eggs, bacon, and sweet herbal tea at the Good Earth Cafe.
As the years went by, Hidden Hills became more crowded with huge homes of the rich and famous, crowding out the riding trails and replacing the comfortable little ranch homes. It was no longer a safe haven to ride.
Sometimes your commitment to follow your art means leaving behind what once felt safe.
One day, Gidget announced she’d bought 5 acres of land in the...
Did you once believe your thoughts were impossible? No, you believed all was possible. That’s the unscathed purity of youth.
On any given day you could turn into a princess, a superhero, or a ballerina. Sometimes our friends would play with us, and together our thoughts became even grander! Our friends were our dream team, partners in creation!
If thoughts are capable of becoming things, then, are our long lost dreams still things living inside of us? If that’s true, where did those unresolved, unfulfilled dreams go?
What happened to your life script?
You used to feel so brave and strong, so invincible until your beliefs and self-doubt sabotaged your goals. And what role did rejection play, or fear, failure, guilt… life.
Beliefs are thoughts we have over and over again until they become what we believe. They can be true or not.
The good beliefs are those that move your life forward. Negative beliefs live inside of your mind as incessant chatter. It’s the inner...
“An idea is a point of departure and no more. As soon as you elaborate it, it becomes transformed by thought” –Picasso
This week, I began researching my old articles hoping for new inspiration.
Nothing clicked. My past work felt like I was pulling a dress out of my closet from 10 years ago. What was I thinking?
I didn’t want to write from the same point of view, I wanted to see my story from a new perspective.
Searching for inspiration, I scrolled through quotes about art, and creative minds and came across Pablo Picasso:
“Every now and then one paints a picture that seems to have opened a door and serves as a stepping stone to other things.”
I’d crossed many stepping-stones and opened many doors to become who I am today. And some of it was pretty damn hard.
There was nothing easy about starting a career in mid-life, or being the sole support of my kids through school and college, or surviving unexpected loss, two of them.
But, in the last...
**Notes from the Broadcast**
Did you once believe your thoughts were impossible? No, you believed all was possible. This broadcast discusses your ability to use your past as a guide to developing the next part of your life with impact and possibility.